Reflections
Each instalment of “Reflections” offers a brief look at an aspect of our humanness –
and how we can contemplate and improve upon it –
to become a better version of ourselves, and lead by example to improve the human collective.
Instalment 1 - Connection
“You have to make a space in your heart, in your mind and in your life itself for authentic human connection” – Marianne Williamson
Humans thrive on connection – it’s an intrinsic part of what makes us unique.
From talking, to letter writing, the telegraph and printing press, to telephones and the internet – through the advent of technology over the last 100 years or so, we can now cross boundaries that were once thought to be impossible.
But with the technology, a part of our humanness seems to have become lost in the quagmire of buttons, flashy tech, and the vagaries of time. It seems that many of us are rushing here and there; always with somewhere to go or do or achieve. Some of us are even hesitant in answering calls now for fear that scammers will take advantage.
Sure, I understand that we’ve gained so much from our technology which has opened the world up in ways that humans have never done before.
Yet, in many respects, we’ve isolated ourselves so much from physical connection that it’s become awkward or “weird” to look someone in the eye and smile.
It’s become way too easy to simply hit a button and “Send” without a second (or third) thought to acknowledge a birthday, anniversary, break up or break down.
Is this the best we can do nowadays?
In generations long gone, communities helped to raise the young, we recognised the flow of the seasons and held reverence for the land and all its inhabitants, and we relied upon ourselves for entertainment, advice and emotional support.
Perhaps our biggest achievement would be stopping, sitting down and talking to someone. I mean, ‘really talking’. Leaving the device in your pocket and trusting that the world won’t end while you meaningfuly engage.
This could be to anyone. A loved one, friend, workmate, shop assistant or the barista at the drive-through.
You have the potential to change someone’s day simply by giving them a moment or two of your time. To offer them the most important thing you can – your attention and willingness to be present.
Emoji’s can’t replace hugs; “Likes” can’t offer support; and ear buds all too often drown out our capacity for real listening.
Spend a moment today and engage with another human on a soul level; with commitment, honesty and a smile in your heart.